Is There A Particular Relationship That Is Causing You Ongoing
Are you feeling lonely or isolated by a specific relationship in your life? Do communication issues cause conflict at home, school, or work? Has it become increasingly difficult to make connections with your spouse, children, coworkers, or
Perhaps you are in a marriage or intimate relationship and feel as though you are no longer on the same page with your partner in terms of shared goals. Or it may be that you are the parent of a child who is having social challenges at school, as they struggle with being bullied or ostracized by friends or peers. Alternatively, it may be that you have outgrown or moved away from a tight knit community that once provided a social outlet.
Whatever the circumstances, relationships are an essential part of our lives. Conflict or misunderstanding between us and our loved ones can result in anxiety, depression, unmet expectations, and ineffective communication.
If you or your child are struggling with self-expression within a central relationship, counseling with New Beginnings Psych can help either or both of you to develop the emotional vocabulary needed to reconnect with others.
We All Must Contend With The Relationships In Our Lives
Relationship issues are both widespread and inescapable. We are all part of families, communities, and networks that require us to engage with other people. There can be a great deal of pressure involved in adhering to the expectations of others, even if our interpersonal relationships are generally positive. However, if we do not meet the standards of our community in some way, feelings of being misunderstood by the people whose opinions and perceptions we value can cause increased tension.
Feeling a need to fit in at school and live up to the expectations of our parents and teachers can cause this pressure to start at a young age. As we grow older in school, cliques form and bullying becomes a part of the social culture, with the potential of impacting our long-term perceptions of ourselves and shaping the dynamics we will have with others later on in life.
Social pressures can dictate the choices we make in our romantic relationships as adults, as parents or family members may question our judgment or wonder why we are not living our lives in the same way. Social media adds another layer of expectation from outside of the romantic relationship in areas ranging from the quality of home decor, to parenting styles, and beyond
Our relationship dynamics are influenced by the unique and individual nature of each person. We all bring to the table a specific set of beliefs about ourselves and the world around us that have been shaped by our friends, families and interactions with others.
Because of these nuances and idiosyncrasies, getting on the same page in your relationships may prove to be challenging.
With counseling, you can begin the process of unpacking the influence that these histories have on your relationships so that you can get to the core of the conflict and communication issues in your life.
Relationship Counseling Can Provide Insight And Solutions
The reasons that we attach specifically to the people in our lives and especially our romantic partners can be explained by decades of research conducted by experts in the field in several areas such as but not limited to: attachment theory. Your therapist will provide an objective point of view in order to bring insight to your core relationships, and will not take sides or place blame.
Our counselors will determine the areas in your relationship where improved communication skills and strategies can be implemented by using a unique and tailored approach. Counseling gives you the opportunity to increase mindfulness and choose words more carefully by helping you gain perspective and reduce reactivity. Becoming practiced at these skills will help you to achieve harmony between yourself and others.
We will work together to explore the dynamics in your relationship and the roles that each person in the relationship may be playing. Our subconscious can cause us to re-enact events from the past with the purpose of seeking a different outcome. There are many roles we may play in relationships, there is often a pattern. One example of a specific role in relationships is the, “capable one” who feels compelled to constantly fix all of your own problems and everyone else’s too, which can lead to heightened pressure and resentment towards others. Recognizing and breaking these types of patterns can lead to real change, and help the other person in the relationship change with you.
Understanding what your subconscious needs and wants out of a relationship is important as we help you learn to meet your own needs, be more receptive to the needs of others, and heal from the past. In understanding the mutual expectations between you and your loved ones, we will help you to determine reasonable outcomes and areas where compromise may be required. With counseling, you or your child will be able to clarify your values and standards so that you can be more aware of what you require in order to have a healthy and successful relationship.
Our therapists are prepared to approach your relationship needs with behavioral therapies from a wide variety of backgrounds and modalities that enhance interpersonal effectiveness. For couples in particular who are looking to increase intimacy and
communication in their marriage or relationship we offer emotionally-focused modalities that can help. At New Beginnings Psych, we believe that you will be able to offer more to all of your relationships once you identify and meet your own needs.
It is possible to once again enjoy the company of your spouse, child, friend, or coworker with whom there has been past tension. Once you can identify and communicate your needs, you will flourish in all aspects of your life—including in the central relationships that give your life meaning.
Perhaps you are thinking about counseling for a relationship in your life, but you have concerns…
I or my child does not have the time to invest in relationship counseling.
Therapy is a resource that can help you to achieve not just the goals you have for your relationships, but the goals you have for your life in general. Counseling is an investment in cultivating the communication skills you need to be a successful parent, spouse, child, friend, and coworker and as with most investments, the time you spend now will pay off in the long run.
I do not have the money to invest in relationship counseling.
As we like to say at New Beginnings Psych, there is no price tag on mental health! Your emotional, mental, and relational health are essential components of living a happy and fulfilled life. If you are struggling with a relationship in your life that is causing conflict or communication disparities, you can greatly benefit from counseling. As with your time, financial investment in your relationships will pay off in the long term in the form of harmonious interpersonal dynamics and effective communication.
Do I need to come to counseling with the person with whom I am having relationship issues?
No. We offer individual counseling that will provide you with the toolkit and guidance you need to maintain strong communication and verbalization of needs in your relationships. Having you both in the session is not necessarily required for you to see improvement. However, if you feel you would benefit more from couples counseling or attending therapy sessions with the person with whom you are having relationship issues, we can discuss options to meet your needs.
Find Reconnection And Harmony In Your Relationships
If there is a relationship in your life that is suffering from conflict, ineffective communication, and unmet needs, counseling at New Beginnings Psych can offer guidance and solutions. For more information about how we can help or to schedule your first appointment, please contact us.